Therapy Tuesday

Today is Ally's therapy day. We meet with the counselor for an hour every Tuesday morning. I had called ahead to tell Joan about Pixie biting Ally so we didn't need to go into that, she already knew. Therefore, she could just talk to Ally about her feelings about Pixie. I think that went really well. Then she asked Ally how she did she deal with her feelings....did she hold them inside herself, and maybe then let the feelings out as anger, or maybe crying, or did she talk about her feelings with her parents, so we could all air our feelings. That was interesting. Ally said she held them inside. Joan asked how did those feelings finally come out? Ally said she didn't know. (and got very quiet) I said "her feelings come out as anger, and the three girls end up bickering with each other, and calling names". So then Joan talked to Ally about walking away from the bickering and name calling, because it takes 2 to fight. Something, by the way, I used to say to my older kids when they were growing up! Maybe I should have become a counselor! Anyway, fighting is no fun if the other person leaves, and refuses to argue back. Hmmmmmmm

Dennis and I felt like it was a good session, and we feel like we left there knowing how to deal with things when it gets tough around here. What?? You didn't know it got tough around here? Well, it sure does!! And just because we have done this before doesn't mean we are able to deal with it now. These are different kids, and they raise issues that our first three didn't raise. The circumstances are so different this time. Kids are the same everywhere, at the same time they are different. If you have kids or have already raised kids, you understand that and I don't need to explain. If you don't have kids, then it's a life mystery you have missed out on, and for that I am sorry.